Issues of Life

Be The Woman He Needs

This is for the ladies… STRICTLY for the ladies!

So, I was thinking the other day how I would love it if my husband was more this and less that…you know what I mean? You know, if only he would just behave the way I want him to, all the time, so I wouldn’t have to ‘correct’ him constantly, when he does and thinks differently from me. I’m sure you know what I mean.

And then, I took it a step further – beyond thought. I started to pray, “God, please help my husband to be more….” And that’s when He stopped me. DEAD in my tracks! He said to me that I had the wrong idea!!! Rather than pray that my husband be more like what I want, I needed to pray that God will give me the grace, wisdom and strength to be the kind of woman he needs in order for him to become the man I want!

That was just what I needed to get me on the right track. Rather than focusing on what he needs to change, my focus is now on what I need to change… And it has helped me to also appreciate the many ways that he is already the man I want, rather than getting stressed out over some minor setbacks.

There is an old saying that “behind every great man, there’s a great woman”. I’d like to adopt and upgrade it here… “Beside every great man, there’s a phenomenal woman!”

Think about it. If you’re with your man, constantly nagging him and telling him he’s not good enough, what kind of man will he become? Aside fulfilling the prophesy of being inadequate, he will also most likely become mean and bitter too! But a man who has a gracious, considerate and uplifting woman by his side has UNLIMITED potential for greatness! And as you see him rise, your respect and adoration will grow. You can also give yourself a pat on the back, because YOU made it all possible.

So ladies, take my advice. Get off his back, and get on your knees and start praying for the kind of grace, wisdom and strength that turns an ordinary man (with potential) into a great and accomplished man.

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8 replies »

  1. I agree with you Ufuo, a good message, respecting our husbands is top priority but we can’t change them, only as they also do what God asks them to do can they become all they were meant to be. We submit to our Husbands Authority which also shows our submission to God and they Love us sacrificially as Jesus Loves us.

    Yes it is True, for a Man and woman to find each other they need to find Jesus Christ first, not just in a name but in their heart where His Name is given meaning, regardless of how it is spelt or sounds.

    If you read my link Ufuo that I shared with you … Rescued from the graveyard, you will see that we enter into Marriage with our own baggage, although you probably already know that, no one can put their messy lives in order by themselves, we need to Trust in Jesus to heal and to fill us with what is needed to live in total Unity with each other.

    If our Marriages are built on a weak foundation they will crumble, sadly those who live in a de – facto relationship, cannot be blessed in it because they are sinning by their fornication, Marriage is not just a piece of paper it is a life time commitment both to God and those we are Married to.

    For those who are Christians there is no divorce by choice and where God finds us we are to stay committed, unless our unbelieving spouse chooses to leave us.

    Christian Love in our Unity in Christ Jesus – Annie


  2. There is nothing like a praying woman, she pleases God and also has a relationship with God

    This is what influenced me to be a praying woman
    and is my motivation to keep being a woman who prays.


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