“Dear Ufuomaee,I have a friend I really want to settle down with but he is a Catholic and I’m a Pentecostal. What can I do in this case, cos I don’t know if my parents will accept a Catholic.”
I am quite stuck on how to advise you on this. Ordinarily, when two believers agree on how to worship God, through Jesus Christ, they still may have differences in certain less fundamental beliefs. Marriage is hard enough, when you agree on your faith. When you don’t, you expose yourself to a lifetime of pains. We have the biblical counsel to not be unequally yoked in marriage for good reason (2 Cor 6:14).
There is quite a world of difference between Catholicism and Pentecostalism, because of the idolatrous way Catholics treat Mary and the saints, not to mention their Pope and other erroneous doctrines. But does that mean you would be unequally yoked if you were to marry a Catholic, as they still profess Christ, and one can reason that they are also Christian? That is a tough one to answer, because I’ve always believed it isn’t about the religion that is practiced, but the faith that is placed in Jesus Christ.
However, to be on the safe side, I suppose it would be better not to marry him, because you will find your faith stunted by ways his beliefs contradict or challenge yours…and you may not be willing to let him lead you spiritually, and that is a disaster waiting to happen. Your husband needs to be the spiritual head of your home, and if the foundation of his faith is wrong, he is in no position to lead.
You also need to consider how you would raise your children, and if you will find agreement there. Marriage isn’t just about you and how you are feeling now. It is also about him, and your children, and ultimately about GOD. Whatever you do, your first obligation is to God, and to be found in His will. Remember, you were bought at a price (1 Cor 6:20).
It’s hard because you’re emotionally invested already, but you should have thought about this before you allowed things to get this far. Would you date a Muslim or a Mormon? They also believe in Jesus, but their religions are riddled with heresies. So, you just have to decide if you believe enough in Jesus to not let yourself be led astray by your heart. Remember that you are to worship God with all your heart too…
Pray for strength and more wisdom to do the will of God. The will of God is that all may be saved and come to the knowledge of His Son, Jesus Christ (1 Tim 2:4), who is the Truth. If you compromise on what you believe in order to marry, you won’t accomplish the will of God, because you will be stepping out of it yourself, and causing them to be in greater danger by not being a light (or an example) for them.
I pray that God will settle your mind and cause you to know and obey His will in this matter. All the best!
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