Greeting’s ma, I have been following your blogs in two years now and you have really been of a great blessing to me ma but I need an advice. I will be 20yrs this year and I am a 400lv student of Uniben. I started out in an awesome relationship December last year with a fellow believer in Christ and we are just 4months together. He is in 500lv.
Ma the issue is, we both have calls into service in the gospel of Christ but our relationship has been stained with emotional pleasures (somewhat close to sex but not it). whenever it happens I feel so bad nd he promises it won’t happen again but he doesn’t see it wrong as I do. I want to marry as a celibate but I’m.not envisioning marriage in 3yrs time now my fear is we may delve into sex prematurely as even when I try placing a fence he has a way of using touches and I don’t want such.
He is genuine in apologizing but a costly mistake ain’t worth it… my decision is to call off our friendship until we get more mature but I fear he will be utterly hurt as this is his first relationship. what do you advice ma? thanks
Hi dear… I’m glad my blog has been a blessing to you, and you feel you can approach me for advice. I think you’ve got a good head on your shoulders, and agree with you that you should separate, especially if marriage is years away.
Marriage is a big deal, and if you are serious about living happily ever after with your choice, then you have to make sure you choose wisely! Too many people are desirous for the pleasures of marriage without making the sacrifices needed to ensure that the pleasure lasts until death separates them. So deny yourself now, so you can enjoy later.
The man who is meant for you ought to lead in this regard… Your boyfriend sounds like he is not mature enough in the Faith to lead you. He might be later, but right now he is more of a hindrance to your spiritual growth, and you could end up ruining your future by compromising with him.
The main thing is to make up your mind – who will you serve? The rest is to trust and obey, and let men-pleasers worry about men. Be kind, but know that you cannot compromise in that regard. If you want to enjoy the fruit of wisdom, you have to learn to heed wisdom. God bless you!
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