Good morning ma, hope you’re good. Please I would like to ask you a question. I met a guy during my service year who I was just plainly friends with. Along the line, I discovered I had developed feelings for him. Somewhere along sha, I told him about it and he constantly encouraged me to express those feelings while unknown to me, he didn’t appreciate it nor feel the same way. Gradually I started feeling like even just as friends, I felt like I was forcing the friendship or being used. So I decided to clarify the issue especially the feeling part, I did and then he told me he didn’t feel the same way and he made me to constantly express my feelings so that I will get over it and dt he needed friends which is why he didn’t want to lose me. I felt insulted and all but really wasn’t dt mad at him. But I decided that to regain myself and move on, I should stay away from him, so I deleted his contact and avoided contacts with him. But recently I have been feeling like it’s because I haven’t forgiven him that I avoid him. I still have feelings for though. Please I need your advice. Thanks in anticipation.
Thanks for reaching out to me. Forgiveness can be tough, because even after you forgive someone, it may not be wise to keep them as a friend, because of the broken trust. Forgiveness doesn’t always restore a relationship, because the other party also needs to be willing to change and be reconciled…