What every #girl needs to #read 😊
@Regran_ed from @fiezie92 - Dear girl child,
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Dear girl child, my daughters and grand daughters included. In this life you will see a lot. From the moment you are born till you die, they will lay down your life plans for you. Over the years they will call you names, they will give you tags, they will categorize you, some tags and names will stick for years. But don’t you worry, generations before you played the wait game so you won’t have to worry about that, we are cleaning the world for you. Yet I have to tell you it isn’t an easy fight, it is a fight you might have to continue after we’re long gone.
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But dear girl child, you are blessed beyond abundance. You might not always think this true as the world will always try to bring you down but you are just as strong as the generations before you. Even though the world will label you the symbol of weakness. You will point to your children, the stretch marks from being heavily pregnant, the saggy breasts from breastfeeding, and feel free to throw your sanitary pads in their faces if anyone ever calls you weak and make a mockery of their claims. You have to learn from a very young age to constantly work hard to break boundaries.
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Dear girl child, it isn’t an easy world for you and it is not getting any easier. These gentlemen are growing ever so impatient, these gentleladies are growing ever so impatient. Your parents might even decide to marry you off before you see the signs of puberty. You will be the target of men, many of who will promise love on the tip of tongue. They will tell you what you need to hear and as such it won’t be easy to tell the real deal from the scams.
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I pray your father loves you so you can reflect true love in his eyes and I pray your mother blesses you with the right father so you can learn what a true man is like.
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Dear girl child, you might be light skinned, dark skinned, white, brown, albino, have vitiligo, fat, skinny, slim, figure 8, whatever, just never forget that your true beauty is what you tell yourself. How you carry yourself is how you will be approached. Go forth and be the best you can be.
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Yours adorably,
Someone’s future father
#Realtalk!
@Regran_ed from @chiomaoparadike - Tip#6 - Find your why, know what you need in a #relationship and don't fall for the glitter and the hype. "Ada, have you met Emeka? He is such a handsome boy and is doing very well."
_ "Ah ah!! You're a pretty girl...why is it taking you so long to settle down? What is the problem, don't you want to get married?
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"All your cousins are married and it's just you? What are you waiting for? Aren't there men in Lagos???"
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"I need grandchildren, my friends all have grandchildren, even the ones whose daughters are younger than you? What are you waiting for?" _
At a certain stage in our lives, we are bamboozled with questions and stuck in a carriage of expectations and desires. A carriage where we are expected to be willing and compliant.
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For many of us, we have never really asked ourselves why we desire marriage.
So, for today, I need you to take a few moments to consider why you want to get married. Do you want to do it because:
- it's what's expected of you
- you want to belong and be accepted.
- you believe it's a gift from God for his children.
- you want to experience true love and #companionship.
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You may not believe this but your reasons have affected how you feel about marriage.
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Many of us have an unhealthy relationship and expectation of marriage. We believe it will be the answer to many things: #loneliness, rejection, disrespect, poverty and a host of other things.
But #marriage is not the answer, #God is!
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He is the only one that can provide solace, #perfectlove, wealth, good health and all the good gifts for His children, including marriage😀. _
This means our desire for marriage must also be found in Him. We must go to the God who is the giver of good gifts for strength to stand firm when the distractions come including those with good packaging but "nothing meaningful underneath". 🙈
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You will be asked a lot of questions about your single status, this #Christmas. People will wonder if you're the problem. Remember that it's not up to them or even you but up to God. He has plans for you and they are for your good.
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Find your why, Sis and stand firm.
#forsinglewomen
#practicallivingtips
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AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR - PART NINE
Having prayed the night before that God should grant him counsel in the night and clarity in the morning, Bolu woke up and tried to recollect his dreams. He couldn't glean anything substantial that was clearly relating to his situation. He didn't even think he had dreamt at all. He had another prayer time and a brief time of listening in the morning, where he hoped that God would direct his thoughts towards His will. What came to his mind and pressed upon him repeatedly was God's words to the Apostle, Paul - "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness" (2 Cor 12:9).
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What did that mean? Was that a message from God about his situation? Was God saying that he can't do anything about it, and he should just trust Him? It wasn't a clear direction for whether or not he should allow Lola to go on the business trip, but the message gave him a certain amount of peace. He knew that whether or not Lola traveled away for business, that God was in control, and he didn't need to have everything under his own control...
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Read more at https://blog.ufuomaee.org/an-emotional-affair-part-nine/
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AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR - PART EIGHT
As was their weekly custom, Bolu and Lola attended Church together on this first Sunday of April. They sat in their usual seats, and greeted their regular neighbours. Pastor Kunle Ogunbanjo preached about the Cross of the Disciple, following on from last week's Easter theme. It was a powerful sermon that reminded the congregation of how they ought to follow in Jesus's example, by laying down their lives in love and submission to one another.
Bolu was struck with the lesson that Christ would never leave us to bear our crosses alone...that as long as we were willing to carry our cross, He will be right there to hold up the other end. He was encouraged to learn that he was not called to bear an impossible burden, but he was to share in the sufferings of His Lord, and thereby learn the power of love. Pastor Kunle concluded that when we have the right attitude to the Cross, when we do not carry it in our own strength, but trust in God, we will understand why Jesus said that His burden is light and His yoke is easy.
After the service, Bolu and Lola lingered to greet the Pastor... Read more at https://blog.ufuomaee.org/an-emotional-affair-part-eight/
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