I’ve been looking through my journals lately, and reflecting on my writings from when I was single… One thing I desired most of all was acceptance and companionship. I realise that it was very important for me to find that in a mate, because it isn’t really about […]
The boyfriend has it the best!!! He can do no wrong, and every good deed he does is golden 🙂 The husband, on the other hand, can hardly get it right! Any good deed he does is suspect. I mean, what is he getting at being so nice? […]
I usually write for the ladies… Today, I want to write for the gents. I usually write from personal experience, but today, I’m writing from an understanding of a husband’s duty to his wife and family. We owe it to feminism for the blurred roles in the family. […]
This is for the ladies… STRICTLY for the ladies! So, I was thinking the other day how I would love it if my husband was more this and less that…you know what I mean? You know, if only he would just behave the way I want him to, […]
I remember when I was still single. I was quite bitter back then, and very angry! Mostly because of the inequality I saw between the sexes in matters of the heart, and largely due to the atrocities I’d heard and seen men get away with. I was hardened […]
Yesterday, I watched two interesting films, that combined to leave a lasting impression on me. They were secular films, but had such great lessons. The first was “Everyone says I love you“, an old (1996) musical comedy with an all-star cast that included Julia Roberts, Drew Barrymore and […]
Do you remember that catchy song from the 80s by Surface that goes “only you can make me happy”? It was one of my favourite songs at the time, and summed up my perspective on love, or better yet – romance. The claim is that you can’t be […]
Marriage is a holy vocation, where two people attempt the greatest feat against natural odds together…living in love and agreement until death separates them. When we romanticise marriage, we diminish the obstacles against its success in our minds, while not acknowledging and addressing them in reality. We set ourselves […]
This seems like a no brainer! I’m sure many people are thinking, “Why not?”, “Of course!” “What a ridiculous question…” Perhaps, maybe… I ask this question as a former hopeless romantic, who is now just a romantic at heart. I know how it feels to be madly in love… […]
I recently got into a debate with my sister about fornication vs homosexuality. It’s an argument that I’ve had before, and I had in mind to write a post about it, but put it off. Well, today’s passionate discussion rekindled that flame in me. I think this is […]
Ladies, ever had one of those relationships where you seem to be going crazy trying to figure him out? He says he loves you, but things just don’t add up in the way that he treats you. You might wonder if he actually hears you when you speak, […]
Everybody wants to be in love. Everybody. Even those who hide from the world, who seclude themselves and who have little patience for other humans. Yes, they too want someone to love them. Someone who thinks they are just awesome. Someone who lights up when they are around, […]
More than a week ago, I shared my counsel with a lady who was in love with a man, who had told her that he couldn’t move forward with the relationship if kissing was off the table. My counsel to her, based on my understanding, was that I […]
This post is a consolidation of a discussion I had with a friend on Facebook, after I shared this tweet on my timeline today: “Love is an #emotion before it is a #decision. #ItsnotThatComplicated…” The tweet was inspired by a discussion I had with two of my friends on […]
There was a guy I dated before I met my husband. He was not the kind of guy I usually went for. Usually, I date guys around my age, but he was almost ten years older. He wasn’t very handsome, but good looking enough. He was also someone […]
