This was another lesson I got from reading WILL, Will Smith’s autobiography, co-written by Mark Manson. Like I’ve said, the lessons are plenty, and I don’t know how this one was missed in the twelve I compiled last week! Actually, it was one of the early lessons that […]
“I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing” (John 15:5). Victory in marriage is guaranteed when we are connected to the Vine, as branches, and we […]
The saying is true, “United we stand, divided we fall”! Unity in marriage cannot be over estimated. It is in fact what defines a marriage – two becoming one! Unity and marriage are, therefore, synonymous in meaning. Without unity, there is no marriage. Marriages don’t fall apart in […]
When you think about your favourite things about life, having friends must be right up there with eating cake! Friends satisfy our most basic needs for acceptance, belonging and care. Friends tell us that we are worthwhile…we are appreciated and we are loved. Everybody needs a friend. And there […]
I wrote this poem in the night, for a friend of mine who is hurting so badly in her marriage. I also know the burden and pain of carrying a Cross and I have counselled too many women going through terrible marriages, that sometimes, I feel like all […]
“Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Ye shall know them by their fruits” (Matt 7:15-16). We have this stark warning from Jesus in Scripture, but it is amazing how few of us take heed of this. The […]
I remember when I was still single. I was quite bitter back then, and very angry! Mostly because of the inequality I saw between the sexes in matters of the heart, and largely due to the atrocities I’d heard and seen men get away with. I was hardened […]
We have a throwaway culture. When we’ve had enough of using, playing with or trying something, it gets thrown in the discard pile. Even our relationships suffer the same fate. The concept of faithfulness is hard to understand in this world, except in the areas of academic study, […]
Perhaps you are like Victoria (name has been changed), and you feel that you are in a loveless marriage. I hope this advice I gave to her will help you to fight for your marriage, and trust God to make a way, where there seems no way. ********** Dear […]
Ekem had this question to ask in response to my post: He’s not psychopathic, he just doesn’t love you. The article was re-published on Lagos Convo, where she made her comment: “What if this happens in marriage, what should the lady do?” I think my response will help […]
Erhuvwun was hungry, but chose to fast that day, especially as Amadi was compelling her to go with him to the idol shrine. When she’d turned down her food, Amadi had not been phased. Rather he put her to some hard work, so that she would be tired and hungry. Erhuvwun […]
Amadi could hear the sound of singing, which indicated that Erhuvwun was almost home. But what had taken her so long? Didn’t she know that he needed her in the morning? Or was she taking advantage of the new liberty he had given her by disrespecting him? Rather […]
“Well, I know Him as the Father of the fatherless, because that is how He introduced Himself to us the day Chief Ogboru threw us and our daughters out of his home. We had nothing, he didn’t even give us provisions. He called us cursed because we had […]
“So, you’re still childless? After two pregnancies?! Hmmm… This is serious oh,” Ejiro said, shaking her head as she looked on sadly at her friend. “How is Amadi taking this?” Erhuvwun sighed, still feeling perplexed about everything. She had come home to visit with her father for a […]
Lola checked her phone for messages and missed calls when she was alone in her hotel room. Bolu had responded to her earlier message with “Great! Work’s been busy today. I’ll call you when I get home, so we can talk about how your day went.” However, there […]