“For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy” (1 Corinthians 7:14). When I originally did my study on the seventh chapter of […]
When you think about your favourite things about life, having friends must be right up there with eating cake! Friends satisfy our most basic needs for acceptance, belonging and care. Friends tell us that we are worthwhile…we are appreciated and we are loved. Everybody needs a friend. And there […]
Unrealistic expectations in marriage have been called the “Silent Marriage Killer”. This dishonourable title is actually well earned, because our expectations pave the way for disappointment, bitterness and resentment, which steal our joy from enjoying whatever is good in our marriage. So it is important that as we […]
This is probably the hardest thing for anybody to do, but it is also the most rewarding act of love. Jesus taught us this principle of losing to gain, through His death on the Cross, where He gave up His life to gain the world (John 3:16)! He gave […]
Communication is a HUGE topic. I know this because it was one of the modules I did when I studied Social Work in University. Since we are relational beings, social beings, communication affects us in multi-dimensional ways and our ability to communicate well can actually determine our success […]
In the first part of this series, I established that marriage is a gift that we ought to be grateful for. We looked at why we must not only appreciate our gift, but appreciate our spouse too. I also shared five things we should be doing to show our appreciation to our […]
Over the next six months, I will be meditating on marriage, with a post a week about what marriage means, how we should approach marriage and deal with challenges that arise in marriage, using the 26 letters of the alphabet as a guide – as well as building […]
I’ve been looking through my journals lately, and reflecting on my writings from when I was single… One thing I desired most of all was acceptance and companionship. I realise that it was very important for me to find that in a mate, because it isn’t really about […]
The boyfriend has it the best!!! He can do no wrong, and every good deed he does is golden 🙂 The husband, on the other hand, can hardly get it right! Any good deed he does is suspect. I mean, what is he getting at being so nice? […]
Yesterday, I watched two interesting films, that combined to leave a lasting impression on me. They were secular films, but had such great lessons. The first was “Everyone says I love you“, an old (1996) musical comedy with an all-star cast that included Julia Roberts, Drew Barrymore and […]
Do you remember that catchy song from the 80s by Surface that goes “only you can make me happy”? It was one of my favourite songs at the time, and summed up my perspective on love, or better yet – romance. The claim is that you can’t be […]
A young man and friend who read my book, The Church Girl, asked me the other day – “What’s the significance of the ring?” He referred to the scene where Mary was returning Ifeanyi’s ring to him, and was wondering why women need or want a ring with a […]
Marriage is a holy vocation, where two people attempt the greatest feat against natural odds together…living in love and agreement until death separates them. When we romanticise marriage, we diminish the obstacles against its success in our minds, while not acknowledging and addressing them in reality. We set ourselves […]
This seems like a no brainer! I’m sure many people are thinking, “Why not?”, “Of course!” “What a ridiculous question…” Perhaps, maybe… I ask this question as a former hopeless romantic, who is now just a romantic at heart. I know how it feels to be madly in love… […]
Danny and Tolu shared their very first kiss in front of the Minister, who married them before God and their families and friends. Tolu had been longing for this kiss for months, but worried if it would meet her expectations. Danny had taken his time on Tolu’s lips, […]
Grace and Truth 