I remember when I was still single. I was quite bitter back then, and very angry! Mostly because of the inequality I saw between the sexes in matters of the heart, and largely due to the atrocities I’d heard and seen men get away with. I was hardened […]
Yesterday, I watched two interesting films, that combined to leave a lasting impression on me. They were secular films, but had such great lessons. The first was “Everyone says I love you“, an old (1996) musical comedy with an all-star cast that included Julia Roberts, Drew Barrymore and […]
Do you remember that catchy song from the 80s by Surface that goes “only you can make me happy”? It was one of my favourite songs at the time, and summed up my perspective on love, or better yet – romance. The claim is that you can’t be […]
A young man and friend who read my book, The Church Girl, asked me the other day – “What’s the significance of the ring?” He referred to the scene where Mary was returning Ifeanyi’s ring to him, and was wondering why women need or want a ring with a […]
Marriage is a holy vocation, where two people attempt the greatest feat against natural odds together…living in love and agreement until death separates them. When we romanticise marriage, we diminish the obstacles against its success in our minds, while not acknowledging and addressing them in reality. We set ourselves […]
So I’ve moved on to reading Leviticus as part of my daily Bible reading. Today, I read Chapter 7, which concluded God’s instructions to the Israelites via Moses, about how they ought to sacrifice their offerings to Him. In this chapter, God talked about the abomination of unclean things […]
Yes, there’s a but. There was no ‘but’ before I got pregnant myself and experienced the reality and the mystery of it all. Before, there was no argument in my mind about it. I was – and still am – Pro-Life, because of my fundamental belief in God […]
I recently got into a debate with my sister about fornication vs homosexuality. It’s an argument that I’ve had before, and I had in mind to write a post about it, but put it off. Well, today’s passionate discussion rekindled that flame in me. I think this is […]
Introduction Over the last few weeks, I’ve been meditating on Paul’s teaching and God’s commandments concerning marriage. As one seeking answers, and also seeking to minister to others like myself who have pondered on this great topic, I desired to know God’s will on the matter. Over 40 […]
Everybody wants to be in love. Everybody. Even those who hide from the world, who seclude themselves and who have little patience for other humans. Yes, they too want someone to love them. Someone who thinks they are just awesome. Someone who lights up when they are around, […]
Are you dating no one special? Please end that relationship now! Don’t you know that who you date could end up being who you marry? Do you really want to marry Mr or Mrs No One Special??? No, I don’t think you do. That’s not only boring but […]
More than a week ago, I shared my counsel with a lady who was in love with a man, who had told her that he couldn’t move forward with the relationship if kissing was off the table. My counsel to her, based on my understanding, was that I […]
This post is a consolidation of a discussion I had with a friend on Facebook, after I shared this tweet on my timeline today: “Love is an #emotion before it is a #decision. #ItsnotThatComplicated…” The tweet was inspired by a discussion I had with two of my friends on […]
Dear Ufuomaee, Good morning ma, hope you’re good. Please I would like to ask you a question. I met a guy during my service year who I was just plainly friends with. Along the line, I discovered I had developed feelings for him. Somewhere along sha, I told […]
This account is a summary of an audio message from a Reader. Dear Ufuomaee I am a 300 level student, who has never been in love. I have had brief crushes, but nothing serious. I am a leader in my Campus fellowship, and I recently discovered that I […]
Grace and Truth 