This post has been a long time coming… It has been in my drafts for a few months, and I saw it earlier this week and said I must get around to writing it asap. I also find it particularly relevant to something I’ve been going through. So, […]
Dear Ufuomaee, Gd day ma. I av a questn a frnd of mine nd i were discussin abt a boy cheatin on his girlfrnd and he was like everyone has the tendency to cheat bt then i told him there is something called control bt pls ma how […]
“Did you hear what happened to Uncle Bill?” Kemi asked, as she worked on my hair, adding pins to keep the style in place. I looked at her through the mirror in my bedroom. I’ve never been keen on gossip, but since he’s family…and we have history, I […]
“Hi Everyone! My name is Promise, and I am a former sex addict. Well, I wouldn’t have really described myself as a sex addict… I thought I was in control of my sexual behaviour and habits. But, it’s obvious I didn’t have as much control as I thought I […]
That night, I dreamt I returned home to Ope, and had prepared a speech to tell him how sorry I was for breaking his heart. But when I arrived at our home, another woman opened the door, and called to Ope, “Darling, there’s a woman here to see […]
Hi everyone! My name is Ope, and I am the husband of a sex addict. Six months ago, my wife, Promise, left me. Actually, it has been six months and eight long days. I feel my life has been at a standstill ever since. It’s not as though […]
By the time I concluded my account, my mother was in tears, thinking of all I had suffered at the hands of Tony and Uncle Bill. Kemi too was tearful. Both were short of words. My mother spoke first. “I will never forgive myself. SIX YEARS??? You mean, […]
I got home to find that things were not as I had imagined. They were much worse. When I got in sight of the bungalow, I saw my mother sitting out on the porch, looking despondent. She stood up when she saw me and squinted. She reached for […]
The bulky man eventually came and collapsed on me, almost suffocating me with his weight. I punched him with the little strength I had left, for him to get off me, wondering if he had suffered a heart attack. He finally arose and pulled on his boxers and trousers, […]
So I made my great escape, and Ope didn’t come after me, just like I knew he wouldn’t. It was not my proudest moment. But I was finally free, to live as I pleased. I didn’t tell Tony about the baby until the morning after, when I had […]
Hi everyone. My name is Ope. I am the husband of a sex addict. Last week, I spoke for the first time, after attending for three months. I was encouraged by a lot of your testimonies, as well as your feedback from sharing mine. I went home resolute and determined […]
I left my hour session with the counselor knowing I wouldn’t be going back. It seemed her counsel hinged on me believing in Jesus, and well…it just didn’t make that much sense to me. It felt good to talk it out, and get all that emotion off my chest, but […]
I recently concluded a two-volume fictional series called An Emotional Affair, to illustrate how easy it is for such a stronghold to take captive a marriage. It was also to illustrate that God is able and willing to deliver us all, and that we must be as gracious […]
Yesterday, I watched two interesting films, that combined to leave a lasting impression on me. They were secular films, but had such great lessons. The first was “Everyone says I love you“, an old (1996) musical comedy with an all-star cast that included Julia Roberts, Drew Barrymore and […]
We feed them, care for them, try not to bother them with too many demands or responsibilities, give them space to play and run around, and keep ourselves looking fresh and attractive so they don’t stray…
Grace and Truth 