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Reader Questions: Does This Dream Mean I Shouldn’t Marry Him?

“Dear Ufuomaee,

Pls having a dream that your wedding gown is not fitting in i. e not my size is that a sign of letting go of the relationship.”

Dear Reader,

Dreams can mean many things or nothing at all.  Sometimes, it is our own anxieties that plague us in the night, and dreams can reveal our fears in that sense.  God can also use dreams to warn you of something, or to redirect your focus on something, or to answer a problem you might have been puzzling over.

However, if God is trying to tell you something as important as whether or not you should marry someone, I do believe that He would give you other direction or evidence of His will, besides a dream that could have multiply meanings.  Are you tuned in to God, and are able to discern His will by communicating with Him regularly?  Do you know what ways He prefers to reveal His will to you, and are you sure of any revelation He may have given on this relationship already?  If you need guidance with prayer, try reading CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD.

We know that God is not a God of confusion, and He does not give us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and of a sound mind (2 Tim 1:7).  Unless you are actually disturbed about marrying this man, maybe he is giving other signs that he is not to be trusted or there are issues about your relationship you are unhappy about, then it is quite likely that this is simply a dream revealing your anxiety about your wedding dress.  It could be about your self-image, and maybe you are worried about your weight, or appearance, or the availability of a wedding dress in your size.

If you’re still feeling uncertain that it is about your self-image and not about your relationship, and have anxiety about whether or not to marry this person, then I believe that says more than your dream!  If you’re in doubt and thinking negatively about this relationship, it could be your own body telling you that something isn’t right, and perhaps you need to slow down, step back and re-evaluate the situation.

Marriage is not a do or die affair.  But once you’re in, you’re in.  Don’t enter with doubts, fear, guilt nor pressure.  You should say your “I do” with joy and peace, and not anxiety and headache!  Ultimately, you need to take it to God, and make sure that you both have God firmly as the centre in your lives, and He will be the glue that keeps you together if and when you decide to marry.  For more on this, read THE WEDDING, HE MUST FEAR GOD and WOULD YOU RATHER BE MISERABLY LONELY IN MARRIAGE?

I wish you all the best in your decision 🙂

Sincerely, Ufuoma.

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4 replies »

  1. This is a very important issue amongst Christians today. It is good to seek God’s face concerning marriage but even better to have a Close relationship with God.

    In our relationship with God, we will find strength, wisdom, courage and help that we need to thrive in all areas of life. How do we know what God did or did not say about marriage when we never desired to know His voice before?

    May our heart constantly and sincerely seek to know Him.

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