Issues of Life

Reader Questions: He’s pressuring me to have sex. What do I do?

Dear Ufuomaee

Hi ma,i just met dis guy on facebook he claims 2 luv me but he z very sexually active i told him i cant av sex outsyd marriage but he wudun av dat.i told him my fears and reasons and even told him my past but he wont let me go and stil demand dat i meet his need.  I told God i want true love not lust.pple around me are mocking me d girl dat has no fiance.  Am feeling lonely everyday.  i cant sleep wit him but i luv him,wot do i do?

Dear Reader,

It seems like a simple case of lust.  What do you think God’s counsel would be?

Please stop listening to people who do not know nor fear God!  You don’t need a man.  Especially a carnal man that has no fear of God nor respect for you.  Remember: “If he doesn’t care about your soul, he is not your soulmate” (unknown source).

You need to have faith in God and trust Him to provide all you need, even a man.  You will receive from Him if you wait for Him, walk with Him and trust in Him.  But if you do your own thing and follow foolish men, you will be the one to suffer.

Remember the Scripture, Isaiah 40:31 – “but those who wait on the Lord, will renew their strength, they will soar on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

Yes, it is hard being without a man…waiting for true love.  But what you need is to set your eyes on God, and you will have strength to do all things, and wisdom to discern a worthy man, and GRACE to attract such!  Don’t hasten because of your flesh.  Bring it under subjection, and let Christ be your daily delight.

It is well with you.

Sincerely, Ufuoma.

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2 replies »

  1. wow girl! if people are mocking you because you are the only one without a fiance then you need new CHRISTIAN friends. when you have good friends who are comfortable being single and you seek God. you won’t have much problems with loneliness. Ignore that guy, he’s not for you. Don’t accept him back in the near future because he can say he’s changed but he will be pretending

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    • Thanks Iay! Also, there might also have self-esteem issues, if you believe a man you’ve just met – on Facebook – is in love with you. It seems you are quite desperate. Please, cool it, and surround yourself with good, godly friends!


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