The boyfriend has it the best!!! He can do no wrong, and every good deed he does is golden 🙂
The husband, on the other hand, can hardly get it right! Any good deed he does is suspect. I mean, what is he getting at being so nice?
It’s a paradox with us ladies, how we trip over the little things our boyfriends do for us, reminiscing on them for days on end, and thinking how he’s such a keeper. Marry the man, and though he does the same things and more, you might hardly notice. Why?
I mean, a boyfriend gives you flowers, and you’re glowing. A husband provides lighting for your home, but he gets no praise. Husbands have it hard.
Maybe it’s just me, but I suspect it’s not. Maybe it’s because when we’re single and dating, we’re easy to please and find it easy to love. We want to be reasonable and affectionate, so that the man will think we’re wonderful and marry us.
But after we’ve got him, the standards change. The same ol’ same ol’ won’t do. Though the man tries to live up to his new responsibilities as husband (and probably father), we want him to also keep up with the chasing game of romancing us. We’re not as reasonable as when we were dating. We’re now harder to please and easily disappointed.
Ladies, let’s be reasonable and give our husbands a break. They’re human too. They have a lot of responsibility on them, and though they may not do the ‘thoughtful’ things they did when trying to win our hearts, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll see how much he dies for you everyday.
Is it how hard he works to provide? Or the time he spends fixing things around the home? Maybe, it’s the consideration he shows when he lets you watch your girly flick, when he’d rather watch a live match. Or the time he spends with the kids so you can get a nap? These gifts are priceless!
Start appreciating them one by one, and you might remind him of the reasonable, affectionate lady he proposed to! And he may not need any prompting at all to buy you chocolates or flowers, or take you out to dinner. However, if funds are tight, appreciate the little ways he makes up for it in cooking meals for you, or complimenting you on the ‘tasty’ leftovers he’s eaten three days straight!
You may find that the only one who changed is you, and perhaps you need to open your eyes and see how lucky you are!
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