“Dear Ufuomaee,

I need your advice on this issue ma. Last year my husband made a mistake and got a lady pregnant, he begged me and promise to quit the relationship as soon as the lady born the baby, which I agree. But the lady has born the baby since last year but I still see some traces that they both communicate. But any time my husband said he want to go and see the baby the lady born for him I did not allow him to go but the lady do call him.  Pls ma, what did you think I can do ma?”

Dear Reader,

Your story is very sad and troubling to me.  It’s a very horrible situation to be faced with.  You and your husband need professional and godly intervention.  But you can’t lead it, because you’re too emotional about it, and the wrath of man never accomplished the will of God.

Your husband doesn’t appear to be submitted to God, which is the beginning on your woes.  Now that there’s another baby involved, it’s not just about you and your family anymore.  You will need to be as gracious as God with this…you need His strength and grace to abide in His love and will, however long this situation will last.

You shouldn’t be looking for a quick fix because there is none.  You just have to take it day by day, moment by moment, grace by grace.  You will be forgiving your husband everyday over this issue, because as much as he needs to look after you and your children, he also has paternity obligations to this child and will be constantly battling temptation from the child’s mother.

You need to pray for him.  Pray for God to give him a single heart towards you, so that he doesn’t stray again…even though he fulfills his obligations to his illegitimate child.  Pray also for your spirit…that it will be filled with love and not bitterness.  Pray for the woman.  That God will forgive her and save her.  That He will bless her with her own husband.  That would ultimately end your husband’s obligation and hopefully mean she will no longer be a threat to your union.

Trust God to work everything out for your good.   I hope you’re encouraged.  God is your ever-present help and stronghold.  I wish you all the best.

Sincerely, Ufuoma.

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